I believe the reason we set and achieve goals is not solely to achieve the goals per se. We set out achieving goals to experiment, to venture out, to experience our strengths, to face our fears, to push our boundaries, to put ourselves on the line and emerge as stronger, truer beings.
We choose our journey to our goals to come fully alive and get to know and experience our true selves better so that we may be free. Free from our limiting beliefs, free from the grip of our fears, free from our dependence on validation from the outside world, free to create, free to be ourselves and free to create and live the life of our dreams.
To say it briefly in Zig Ziglar’s words : “What you get by achieving your goals is not as important as what you become by achieving your goals.”
The more I think of it, the more I realize that this is the reason I do everything I do.
What about you? What gets you going? What excites you ? What are you passionate about ? What lights you up ? What makes you come alive ?
You have wishes, you have dreams, you have aspirations, you have a vision of what could be, a vision of your best life, a vision of your best self. It could be strong and clear and vivid,or it may be a subtle, shaky inner voice whispering to you once every while, a longing, a gut feeling, a seeking for meaning, for purpose, a restlessness, a nudge. Or is it an I-feel-stuck-but-don’t-know-why kind of a feeling, or I-know-I can-do-better feeling, or this-can’t-be-all sort of a feeling ?
You have come so far and achieved so much in your life to this day. You have dreamed, you have dared, you have loved, you have worked hard, you have given it your all, you have made things happen, you have fallen, you have risen, you have faced your fears , fought your demons, you have overcome obstacles and weathered storms…and here you are today.
You have what it takes to make your dreams come true.You it deep within. For some reason though, you feel like something is holding you back right now, but you don’t know what it is. You catch yourself saying things like : if only I knew how , if only I had more confidence, more education, if only I had more time, if only I had more money, if only my partner was more understanding, if only my boss was more supportive, if only I was prettier, if only I was smarter, if only my childhood was not so tough, if only ..., if only…you get the drift !
As valid and true as all these ‘if-onlys’ may seem, I believe that at some level we choose to believe them, we choose to let them stand in our way (sometimes consciously, but mostly unconsciously) Why ? So we do not have to look at what may lie beneath, at the monsters under our bed, at the skeleton in our closet.
Skeletons, monsters…that could hurt, that could be shameful.What will others think of me ? And once I have seen it, I will have to get out of my comfort zone and do something about it. But I am not even sure what and how.Nope, not happening. After all, it ‘s really not thaaat bad where I am at right now. I mean I am doing ok, really.
And so your days pass. But the nudging does not ! Deep within you know, you have got to go on the journey towards your dreams. Because you know, it will set you free. Free to live your best life ! Free to be your best self !